I was going through a messy breakup. Sitting on my bedroom floor crying, depressing thoughts were swirling through my head. “You are all alone”. “You are rejected.” “You have no hope.” “No one wants you”. It was definitely a low point. The easiest thing to do was to sit there and dwell in those thoughts, to agree with them and even encourage them.
But there was something in me that knew that even though those thoughts felt true, they weren't true. They were lies. Lies that were easily confirmed by my circumstances, but lies nonetheless. As I was sitting there, something in me rose up and I found myself praying, declaring, “That is not who I really am. That is not what God says about me”. In that moment of pain, I chose to believe that what God says about me is true, that my identity in Christ is unchanging and that standing upon that foundation is the safest place to be.
Knowing my identity in Christ in that season, brought me peace, healing and security. It was my lifeline.
Here are some truths that I clung to and still cling to daily.
I AM LOVED
"But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8
"No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord." Romans 8:37-39
I AM NOT ALONE
"Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you." Deuteronomy 31:6
"And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be in you." John 14:16-17
I HAVE HOPE
"And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:19
"And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ." Philippians 1:6
Here are some ways to help you walk out in your identity in Christ.
Store the word in your heart.
Don’t wait for the storm to come. Store up the word of God in your heart by reading the Bible regularly and memorizing significant verses.
Trust God’s word, not your feelings
If you are anything like me, you may experience multiple highs and lows in one day, or even one hour. Your feelings are valid and are great indicators of what is going on in your heart, but don’t let your feelings be your Lord. Reserve that spot for Jesus.
The Bible commands us to “love your neighbor as yourself”. Don’t forget the second half. You must love yourself to be able to love others. Don’t dwell on negative thoughts about yourself. Self hatred is more rampant than you think. Give yourself grace and dwell upon the positive things that God says about you.
Make a choice
Sometimes we can’t control the thoughts that come into our head, but we can control whether they stay there or not. Choose to not entertain lies about yourself. Make a choice to believe by faith who God says your are.
Surround yourself with people that see you as God sees you. Those friends that will call you out on stuff and speak the truth in love. Keep them close.
If you are struggling with condemning thoughts or going through a difficult situation, let a trusted friend, counselor, or pastor know. Give them an opportunity to love you and tell you who you really are.
Sometimes it takes awhile for our true identity in Christ to move from our head to our heart. Don’t give up. Jesus is fighting on your behalf. Do your part by persevering and believing in faith.
You are loved, secure, known, triumphant, chosen, significant, and so much more. Start today by choosing to believe who you really are in Christ. He paid the price for your freedom, now let the truth set you free.