This is a framework for a mentoring either in a 1 on 1 context or in a mentoring group with a clear leader or mentor figure. It is designed for disciples who have a good understanding of the basics of Christianity and have engaged in the practices of a growing disciple.
We recommend working on a rotation of two sessions meeting together going through the CORE practices below, and then one session for Experiential Learning. You can learn how to do both below:
1. Core Practices:
**This guide is adapted from content by Neil Cole & Jon Tyson**
The following 4 steps can be done in 60-90 minutes (depending on the group size) . Suggested time allotments are included. We are also factoring in 10 minutes or so on the front end for relational connection.
Confession (10 min):
Background: In our city, it is easy to be live hidden lives where we are unaccountable to others. In this environment, habits and patterns can set in that while promising fulfillment, keep us in bondage. Thus confession is a gift that brings freedom, healing and life that bears good fruit.
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” James 5:15-16
“If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:8-10
Put it Into Practice: Prayerfully, read over the following Scriptures and then share areas where confession of sin is needed:
Galatians 5.19 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, 21 envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.
22 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!
24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. 25 Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. 26 Let us not become conceited, or provoke one another, or be jealous of one another.
Sample Confession: “This week I have had several outbursts of anger with my kids. I confess that and repent. Lord please forgive me and heal me, help me to be a man marked by kindness.”
Others (10 Min):
Background: The Others practice is is about making what is paramount to Jesus paramount to us: pursuing the lost. One of the core values of our church is that found people find people. As Jesus has found us, so he calls us to be apart of "finding" others.
In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents. Luke 15
For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost. Luke 19:10
Jesus said that he came to seek and save the lost, and we see him moved with deep compassion for those far from God. Often we feel inadequate to share the gospel, or don’t even know where to start.
The goal of this section is to help you identify a person or people to whom God is leading you, and to pray for that person to come to know Christ. We cannot, and should not, coerce or manipulate people, but we do believe the Holy Spirit works through the prayers of the people of God draw the lost to Jesus.
The prayers listed are all based on scripture, and designed to be a starting point, not a formula. Along with prayer, we hope that you will see where God is moving in their life, and step out in love, faith, and obedience.
- I pray, Lord, that You draw __________ to Yourself (John 6:44).
- I pray that __________ seeks to know You (Acts 17:27).
- I pray that __________ hears and believes the Word of God (1 Thess. 2:13).
- I ask You to prevent Satan from blinding ____ to the truth (2 Cor. 4:4; 2 Tim. 2:25-26).
- Holy Spirit, I ask You to convict __________ of his/her sin and reveal his/her need for Christ’s redemption. 6. I ask You to send someone who will share the Gospel with __________ (Matt. 9:37-38).
- I also ask that You give me (and/or my fellow disciple) the opportunity, the courage, and the right words to share the truth with __________ (Col. 4:36; Eph. 6:19-20).
- Lord, I pray that __________ turns from his/her sin (Acts 17:3031; 1 Thess. 1:9-10).
- Lord, I pray that __________ would put all of his/her trust in Christ (John 1:12; 5:24).
- Lord, I pray that __________ will confess Christ as Lord of his/her life, take root and grow in his/her faith, and bear much fruit for Your glory (Rom. 10:910; Col. 2:67; Luke 8:15).
Put It Into Practice:
- Who has God called you to share Christ with?
- Have you been loving and prayerful for ________ this week?
- Have you sensed God bringing you opportunities to love and share?
- What specific step will you take this week to influence ______ towards Jesus?
- Spend time praying together for the people God is putting on your heart.
Reading (15-30 Min):
In mentoring groups like this it is helpful to build the core content around either a book/section of the Bible (ie Philippians or Sermon on the Mount) or a Christian book (audio or video works fine too) focused on a topic like marriage, faith at work, finances etc. Either way, decide at the onset of the semester what will be the focus of the reading section, and create a reading plan (ie week 1 we will go over chapter 1 & 2 in the book). We have a recommended book page here to help you choose a good book for your group.
When you come together, do the put it into practice section.
Put it Into Practice:
- Tell us about your reading this week?
- What stood out to you in this week’s reading?
- Where were you convicted in this week’s reading?
- Where were you encouraged in this week’s reading?
Encouragement (10 min):
Everyone needs encouragement. As followers of Jesus, one of the ministries of the Holy Spirit is to encourage believers. We want to be a group of encouragement and ministry of the Holy Spirit.
1 Corinthians 14 tells us about the power of ministry of the Holy Spirit in our lives, “3 But one who prophesies strengthens others, encourages them, and comforts them.” We want to take specific time to listen to Jesus in prayer and to encourage one another for the purpose of building each other up.
Put It Into Practice:
- Take time to wait on the Lord and share any encouragements you got.
2. Experiential Learning
Part of mentoring is letting people see the way you live out your discipleship to Jesus, and then also giving them feedback as they try and take similar steps.
To lead an experiential learning session, think through a way you can let the people in your group "see" the way you live something out. If your group is focused on finances, walk them through how you budget your finances. If it is on parenting, have the group over for a dinner at your house with your kids present.
After modeling what this looks like in your life, arrange an experience that allows you to see how they are implementing what they are learning. This could be helping them with their finances, or having dinner at their house around their kids etc. Give encouragement and coaching after the experience.